One day, I was having a conversation with my daughter. We were talking about general bad habits around the house. Although my daughter is an adult, I went into my father- knows-best mode and started giving her instructions on how to watch her bad habits when visiting other people’s homes; but as I was in mid-sentence, she cut me off!
She didn’t want to hear the lecture. I guess she figured she’d heard enough and knew the speech I was about to give. She didn’t want to hear a long lecture and so she launched into her own dissertation on her excellent outside-the-house- good-habits! She went on with how careful she was about her conduct around her friends, her good– no, excellent manners. She went on about being polite and how conscience she was of leaving things clean, how she ALWAYS put things back where she found them. She was on a roll!
She was on a roll!
I’m almost thinking…..who are you and what have you done with my daughter!? I took both of her hands, to get her attention because I knew she wasn’t listening. I looked her in the eyes and asked “How much have we learned in life by just talking?” She smiled and apologized for going off.
One of the major ways to learn as we go through life is from listening, hearing what’s being said, and sometimes what’s not being said.
To the men reading this post, someone once said:
“Listen very closely when a women is quiet!“
And to the women:
“If you wish to know the mind of a man, listen to his words.” –Johann Wolfgang von Goethe.
Want to know what’s one of the first steps in the development of a healthy relationship? Start with listening to each other. Listening is crucial when it comes to learning your mate! I can’t overemphasize this point. When a husband and wife learn to listen to what is being said in a conversation between the two and take into consideration that they are individuals and deserve to be heard and appreciated, the building blocks of a solid relationship are being established.
Has this ever happened to you? Your husband or wife has done something or said something that didn’t sit well with you and as a result, you were hot, mad, upset! However as you heard them out and listened to their explanation, anger began to leave. I know this doesn’t happen all of the time, but you get the point, that it was through listening that a blow-up or fight was averted.
So remember, One of the most sincere forms of respect is actually listening to what another has to say.
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